He said, she said” implies that we throw up our hands — the truth simply cannot be known. It’s one person’s word against another person’s word and that’s all there is to it. This is not true. The expression is cavalier, crude and dismissive of sexual misconduct. Motives to tell the truth or to lie still matter. We can still judge speakers’ patterns of honesty or dishonesty, the directness versus slipperiness of their answers and their recall of detail versus complete lack of memory. Thank God the jury in Carroll's civil suit understood this.