If you choose to be a stay-at-home mother or father for whatever reason (medical, mental, physical) your main goal is the appearance and health of your children first. You no longer are the No. 1 priority, your needs come second. It's a shame that you see kids still to this day going to school with dirty clothes, hair a mess, smelling of animal urine and cigarettes. While you see parents of these kids having money for babysitters to go out and drink every night. You don't get to say "don't judge" when you as a parent are failing your child. Stop blaming others for your bad choices.