I'm the Cape May widow and thank you to my Villas Man response. I work 40 hours a week, volunteer at 4 churches, cook and shop for my elderly neighbors...no I dont get paid for that!! You missed the part of me residing in a senior building. You probably have a nice house and income to help support all those family members. Sir, I was praising men like you and it's a shame you don't see your self worth. May your GOD give you the strength to continue.