Service was once the mission of Cape May's clubs and nonprofits. Sadly, hearing several have become tools for their leaders to grovel for social standing, photo ops and to pad Board Members pockets. Screaming, abuses and bullying are not tenets of respected leadership. They instead reveal stunted maturity and flagging character and are manipulation tactics used to intimidate to gain and maintain control. If club members allow abusive behavior to go unchecked, they are equally culpable. When nonprofits solicit donations and time, the generosity of the community deserves to be respected in kind.