A spouter writes that her 88 y/o neighbor has very limited income. She gives $500 a month to church, then struggles to pay for meds, food, rent and so on. The spouter asks: Who really needs the $500 more, her friend or the church? … Your friend does! Please try to reason with her. If you can’t, share the details in your spout with her priest. (You mention she is a devout Catholic.) He may be able to reason with her. He may have no idea she is in such a financial bind and is struggling to make ends meet.